tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post3526405810333428392..comments2023-03-25T03:49:19.161-04:00Comments on A Little Something for Me: Didn’t You Know I Love You Too?Kristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16225291652604462660noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-49867263717198315092011-11-17T21:55:50.175-05:002011-11-17T21:55:50.175-05:00It is so hard to try and balance everyone's ne...It is so hard to try and balance everyone's needs. I have watched Braeden go through the same things as Andrew. Braeden seems to know that Ryley takes up an awful lot of my time and energy, and he makes sure he lets me know when he is feeling angry about it! All you can do is to keep acknowledging it. Braeden now understands that sometimes Ryley needs Mum. Sometimes his Nan has to look after him. But that I will always be there. I will always have time to spend with him once we are back to normal. <br />I make sure that Braeden can always express how he is feeling to me. <br />It is hard work. And I spend many night crying myself to sleep as I wonder how I am ever going to make sure my boys know how much I love them.<br />But I think they do know. And your beautiful children will know too. Be kind to yourself. They need a Mama who has the energy to love them don't forget xoxAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18190504250173924330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-69250808623423276262011-11-17T12:52:43.619-05:002011-11-17T12:52:43.619-05:00I struggle with this too. There is never enough ti...I struggle with this too. There is never enough time to give 100% of your attention, time and energy to each one. I have 4 and one on the way...trust me, I know. It's so hard to love them each individually the way each one needs to be loved. Mommy guilt is such an evil destructive cycle. And I've been there...and I'm sorry. Don't strive for perfection...just love as God wants you to love. that will be enough.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08354973669191454830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-68462740748205896452011-11-17T09:32:58.987-05:002011-11-17T09:32:58.987-05:00Very touching post! Great letters!
mommysummers.b...Very touching post! Great letters!<br /><br />mommysummers.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698613016204055122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-82779248407530531052011-11-17T05:30:50.558-05:002011-11-17T05:30:50.558-05:00Oh, heart. Mine aches for yours.
Having more than...Oh, heart. Mine aches for yours.<br /><br />Having more than one child is hard work. You are, after all, only one mother. Adding a child with special needs to the mix compounds....everything.<br /><br />I feel spread a little too thin quite often. When my third child arrives next year, I expect that to increase a thousand fold. <br /><br />I am just one little woman. But I know my heart has space for all my babies. The trick is how best to show them.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this piece of your heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-58265420158582629022011-11-17T04:45:37.305-05:002011-11-17T04:45:37.305-05:00Great comments and a very touching post. I have th...Great comments and a very touching post. I have three children, none with special needs - but then they all have their own 'uniqueness' and I totally understand what you mean about your love for them all xCatching the Magichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02439612318034698506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-48578002835799242011-11-16T22:11:14.376-05:002011-11-16T22:11:14.376-05:00I get this. With three I always feel like there i...I get this. With three I always feel like there is at least one that I haven't "touched" that day. It is a very rare day when I feel like I have fulfilled mommy duties to all of them.<br /><br />Just know that as long as you are giving your best and still have the ability to recognize who needs you the most at that moment you are doing your job.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224711908880146896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-4279449027500633182011-11-16T19:33:53.138-05:002011-11-16T19:33:53.138-05:00All I can say is ... after a long day of work and ...All I can say is ... after a long day of work and then devoting 110% to my kids - these comments put my heart at peace. Thanks so much...Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16225291652604462660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-66273616358936094792011-11-16T15:03:47.034-05:002011-11-16T15:03:47.034-05:00Yes, yes, and more yes. It is so hard to balance ...Yes, yes, and more yes. It is so hard to balance all children to make them all feel loved. Equally. Differently. And when they have different needs at different times it just pulls a mother in opposite directions. It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job. Thanks for sharing!christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-3868154491203685082011-11-16T14:59:21.152-05:002011-11-16T14:59:21.152-05:00I have only one. He would probably say he wants mo...I have only one. He would probably say he wants more time too.JDaniel4's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10354900916937838719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-32035060028518086212011-11-16T11:57:02.145-05:002011-11-16T11:57:02.145-05:00Being a mother to more than one requires balance. ...Being a mother to more than one requires balance. I always feel guilty at night, did I give each the equal amount of time? I don't think that guilt will go away.<br /><br />Your letters were very nice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-14966239265699495932011-11-16T11:22:55.968-05:002011-11-16T11:22:55.968-05:00I have to second all of those previous comments th...I have to second all of those previous comments that say "I know how you feel; I understand". I think any of us with more than one kid can understand where you're coming from.<br /><br />Please know that it will get easier. They will understand more as they get older. That doesn't make it any less heartbreaking now, when they don't understand, but it will get easier.<br /><br />Your letters to them are kind and touching, and I hope you share them with them some day.Mrs. Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00376731054571809640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-57461090110530602302011-11-16T10:14:03.397-05:002011-11-16T10:14:03.397-05:00It's very hard. I didn't understand it whe...It's very hard. I didn't understand it when I was growing up and resented my sister very much. Now, as a parent, I get it but I think my kids probably don't. I try to tell them. I try even harder to SHOW them. But I'm not sure they feel it. All we can do is try our best.Christine Siracusahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09454182371195180210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-69870150309246245602011-11-16T09:54:35.550-05:002011-11-16T09:54:35.550-05:00What lucky little ones you have to have a momma wh...What lucky little ones you have to have a momma who recognizes all of their needs and emotions and tries (and that's all any of us can do, isn't ) to meet them all.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11664358098975211181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-85859051713590169892011-11-16T09:37:46.729-05:002011-11-16T09:37:46.729-05:00Oh damn. This makes me cry. It's so hard when...Oh damn. This makes me cry. It's so hard when there's more than one because it always feels like you're choosing. Which one to kiss first, which one to hold while the other plays, which one gets the toy when they fight over it. It's pure love,but it is so hard to keep it all "fair".Krista @ Not Mommy of the Yearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04722992648038344727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-71535155340137377532011-11-16T09:22:06.367-05:002011-11-16T09:22:06.367-05:00Oh, I so get this. I love all of my children. But ...Oh, I so get this. I love all of my children. But sometimes, one of them has to come before the others. And I hate that for my other kids. But, don't know how to do it any differently.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-52448742560800308822011-11-16T08:40:15.628-05:002011-11-16T08:40:15.628-05:00your post made me cry - happy tears. I never thoug...your post made me cry - happy tears. I never thought I would love someone as much as my husband until I met my baby son 6 weeks ago - now I love them both even more.Heidi / I'm with Leiahttp://imwithleia.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-80182392560157087212011-11-16T08:26:14.041-05:002011-11-16T08:26:14.041-05:00This is beautiful.
I think we all wonder how we...This is beautiful.<br />I think we all wonder how we'll love subsequent children as much as the others. But then we amaze ourself by feeling that love all over again. It's different, but no less intense.<br />I think you and your kids will be just fine, because you recognize ALL of their needs.Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-9917099743268892232011-11-16T08:14:49.937-05:002011-11-16T08:14:49.937-05:00Love isn't about equality. It doesn't mean...Love isn't about equality. It doesn't mean the same thing for everyone, because everyone doesn't need the same thing. Giving your kids what they need when they need it, is good parenting! From what I have read here, you are a good one! Don't doubt that!Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18076696497945939880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-88223108172226691312011-11-16T08:03:12.173-05:002011-11-16T08:03:12.173-05:00My kids are four years apart in age. My son has ma...My kids are four years apart in age. My son has many thought disorders, his sister is a high achiever student. When they were younger there was a lot of resentment between them. He thought she had life easy, she thought he acted up and got away with it. As they got older, they were better able to understand that they each needed attention in their own way.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-28284107856440399312011-11-16T07:35:49.454-05:002011-11-16T07:35:49.454-05:00This is one of my hardest every day battles too! I...This is one of my hardest every day battles too! I only have two girls but one definitely demands more time over the other and truly needs it. I do my best but I always worry that the other one's heart is aching...I know mine is. Beautiful post. So happy you linked up with Shell.The Preppy Girl in Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08301240684051361991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455556125864384726.post-52251312647565239982011-11-16T07:17:23.133-05:002011-11-16T07:17:23.133-05:00Kristin,
I wish I didn't read this as my time...Kristin,<br /><br />I wish I didn't read this as my time was up on the computer, and I have to get the kids ready for school because my response may seem too short, but we understand how you feel you. You started out with two kids right on the bat which is even more challenging, but when you add another child into the family, what you say is so true. You get pulled. My oldest son gets jealous of his baby sister for attention, and they are almost four years apart.<br /><br />We love them all equally, but sometimes it is hard to balance.Leigh Powell Hineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271217245421014771noreply@blogger.com