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Monday, September 12, 2011

How to be Passive Aggressive on the Internet

Tomorrow, I’m going to be passive aggressive on the internet.  I’m completely outing myself.  There is something on my mind that bothers me about SO MANY people in this new world we’ve become a part of.  And it is not just something I feel I need to address in the WHS community, but the entire Special Needs community.  So, if you want to read the most outRAGEous post I’ve ever written… log on tomorrow.  

 

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More to the point of this post.  How easy is it to be passive aggressive now?  It doesn’t happen as much on blogs (by the way… I’m probably being more “aggressive” on my blog tomorrow than passive..) – but really on Facebook.

I am amazed at the dirty laundry that is aired on Facebook.  I understand – many people think I air my dirty laundry here… but I would like to think of it more like “clean laundry.”

I am amazed by the number of people who discuss friendships that crumble, family relationships under duress, and most of all… fights with their romantic partner.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion – true.  But… I am not close to someone I once was.  Never once was this discussed on Facebook or any other social media outlet.   I never “outed” our grievances.  I don’t want to overhear an argument.  It embarrasses me.  I understand – when someone is going through a divorce or break up and needs some support.  When people are having a bad day and want words of encouragement….

 

But I’m tired of reading status updates like:facebook

John Doe is frustrated and angry.

John Doe has had enough and ready to walk out

John Doe is tired of people’s crap

John Doe is thinking about moving on

 

Passive Aggressiveness at its finest.  Honestly – I’m not a fan.  I love Facebook.  I love using it as a way to share funny stories and updates.  But I would never out an argument between Ray and I on the internet.  Is that any way to actually solve a problem?  I just think this barrier of anonymity – like leaving notes unsigned in high school lockers – has led people to become passive aggressive about their issues rather than facing them outright. 

This coming from the person who is about to irritate plenty of people tomorrow. 

What do you think? Do you like the “mysterious” Facebook posts?  Or do you think this has led to an era of Passive Aggressiveness? 

posted by Kristen @ 9:22 PM   6 Comments

6 Comments:

At September 12, 2011 at 9:43 PM , Blogger Missy | Literal Mom said...

I hate the passive aggressive approach on Facebook. It's just begging for "Whaaaatttt?" So annoying.

 
At September 12, 2011 at 10:07 PM , Blogger Kisses4Kaylee said...

If people state that they are sad, angry, frustrated, etc without giving a reason, that does not bother me. They are natural emotions, and as a 'friend', I see it as a cry for support and reassurance. What DOES bother me are the posts where people use aggressive language, call others out by name, or in some other ways, complain about life in a way that is beyond asking for reassurance and some positive encouragement. There can be a thin line, but in the special needs community, there are those who spew venom and defeat the whole purpose of being part of a support system. Looking forward to reading your post tomorrow.

 
At September 12, 2011 at 10:17 PM , Blogger Kristen said...

Yeah - "Kaylee's mom ;)" I don't get as upset when it is just ... sad, etc. I'm talking about how many people just AIR IT ALL OUT and I am stuck "seeing" it. I am also sure that my post tomorrow is going to be seen as "controversial" = because it does teeter on that fine line... of saying "I want to support people" ... and "I can't keep doing this."
After today's post - I'll be interested in what you think about it too.

 
At September 13, 2011 at 12:45 AM , Blogger Shannon said...

Those kinds of thing annoy me too! Looking forward to your post tomorrow!

 
At September 14, 2011 at 2:00 PM , Anonymous A Mother's Thoughts said...

K, so I am laughing really hard at your note int he regridgerator. This will be short and sweet. So my mother use to love to drink 7UP when we were younger, but having 7 children and a husband we would alway drink it on her (not intentionally) but we were a family of 7 children, so needless to say the pop would be gone fairly quickly. My poor mother got so tired of going into the fridge and seeing that her pop was all gone or worse there was a mouthful left, so one day we went to the fridge and there was a note on the fresh bottle of 7UP saying enjoy drinking my 7UP, because I spit in it and you will be drinking my goober too! It was so gross, (not to her because it was her "pre"backwash). Anyway, I will never forget the sight of the big piece of spit floating around the top of that pop bottle!! Thanks for the memory! lol

Lynn

 
At September 28, 2011 at 8:45 PM , Anonymous A Mother's Thoughts said...

I think that I am absolutely a aggressive in most situations. I totally agree with peoples crap on FB. I don't understand what people are thinking when they put all of their nitty gritty.

Lynn

 

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